My approach with dogs is all about leadership. Lots of folks hear me say “leadership” and they assume I mean “dominance”. It is SO important to clear this up, so let’s do that now in the clearest way I know how: a chart!
The difference isn't always visible on the outside, but it is something that you the dog owner can definitely feel. See if you can feel the difference between these two approaches.
values group harmony
values personal status in pack
open to the moment
agenda- or goal-oriented
fosters confidence in dog
erodes confidence in dog
fair for everyone
unfair bias to self
patiently play the long game
impatiently want instant results
yo-yos with ingratiation, to regain favour
feels safe to be around
feels unsafe to be around
has willing followers
success is attributed to the group
takes credit for success
takes responsibility for short-comings
blames dog for short-comings
No one is perfect. Sometimes, you’ll notice a dominant streak in you. It’s ok. Simply being aware of it is a huge step. Next, chuckle at yourself and your dominant streak; don’t be too serious or critical of yourself and don’t try to dominate yourself!
Do you want to move from dominance towards leadership in a way that your dog understands? Work with me to discover EXACTLY how to do that.
Here's to You and Your Dog!